SAGE Leadership Strategies: 20 Ways to Be More Confident
When I work with new leaders or involving in onboarding new employees, one of the challenges for them is to remain confident as they encounter new situations where they do not have previous experience.
Want to know some quick & practical methods to increase your own confidence?
Without further ado, here are some great ideas. Decide which one(s) will work for you.
- Think about someone who is confident. Act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behavior. If it works for them; it will work for you.
- Smile more often. That doesn’t mean putting a silly grin on your face! But smile when you walk down the street, when you meet people and generally be happier even if you’re not feeling that way.
- Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back. Instead learn from your experiences for next time.
- Give yourself a makeover. Buy yourself some new clothes, get your hairstyle updated, treat yourself to something new. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost.
- Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it.
- Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities whenever possible – because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence.
- Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time.
- Learn how to say “No” – at least occasionally. You don’t have to say yes to everything that comes your way. Especially something not related to work that will soak up your time. Just watch the reaction after you’ve said it the first time and there will be no going back.
- Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.
- Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.
- Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say, “Is this really important in the grand scheme of things?” A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!
- Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the way you think.
- List the words you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed.” Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.
- At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.
- Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out?
- Every morning when you are getting ready for the day, play over in your head the events in the coming day as though they have already happened and were a success. Visualize all of the meetings you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so.
- Improve your body language. The way you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change your body language.
- Emotion is created by motion. As in #17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around your body – it makes you feel better and more confident.
- Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more often. Not to the point where all your conversations start with I, I, I. Just make sure that you give yourself credit for what you have accomplished.
- And finally – you only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself, “In 10 or 20 years, will what I am worrying about now really matter?“
Sylva Leduc, MEd, MPEC
Leadership Strategist & Executive Coach
Sage Leadership Strategies
Author, “Roadmap to Success”
Get a free copy of “Roadmap to Success” with indepth interviews of Stephen Covey, Ken Blanchard, myself and others in coaching/consulting. Visit Sage Leaders  and click on the book cover. There’s a nominal cost to cover S&H.