Sage Strategies: 20 Ways to Be More Confident

September 25, 2009 by  
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SAGE Leadership Strategies: 20 Ways to Be More Confident

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When I work with new leaders or  involving in onboarding new employees, one of the challenges for them is to remain confident as they encounter new situations where they do not have previous experience.

Want to know some quick & practical methods to increase your own confidence?

Without further ado, here are some great ideas.  Decide which one(s) will work for you.

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Job Search for Introverts

August 28, 2009 by  
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Earlier this week, I had a conversation with a colleague about what it’s like for shy or introverted people to embark on a job search.

One word describes how those folks often feel – Terrified!

In the earlier stages of my career I could easily be described as a shy introvert. I have many first-hand experiences of how mentally challenging it was for me like to conduct a job search. It was agonizing until I learned a few tips and tricks.

Here’s a quick story about the very first job I ever applied for and for which I was hired.

When I graduated from high school, I wasn’t sure of my career path, so instead of heading directly to university I decided to work for a year. I thought I’d laze around for that year but my parents had other plans. They said if I wasn’t going to continue my education then I’d have to get a job.

That meant I’d have to apply for jobs and go on interviews. Gulp!

I didn’t know where to start, and even worse, I didn’t WANT to go on interviews. I can fondly remember my very first interview. My best friend’s mother worked in a small, family-operated retail store. She knew they were looking for a clerk so invited me to speak (i.e. interview) with the owner. I screwed up my courage, took my mother with me and went on the interview.

Yes!! You read that right, I took my mother along on my interview. As a Baby Boomer I’ve heard that only Gen Ys drag along family members to interviews. Says who?

Anyway, I digress.

Did I get the job? Yes! Was it easy for me to go through the interview? No! After the interview, there was so much adrenaline pumping through my body that when I got home I promptly threw up.

If my experience seems to be an extreme reaction to an interview, it’s not. At least not for an introvert. I’ve coached many introverts through the years and when I share my story they always nod. We know what it’s like to be an introvert and go through the agony of looking for a job.

Anyone who has completed a Myers Briggs Type Indicator knows the MBTI categorizes people as either Introverts or Extroverts. What people may not understand is that the Myers Briggs Type Indicator looks at how people process information. An extrovert thinks out loud while an introvert thinks before speaking.

However, being an introvert does not automatically mean the person is shy. There are varying degrees of introversion, from the deathly-shy introvert to the gregarious introvert. When I came out of high-school I was a very shy introvert. Now, as a gregarious introvert who speaks in front of large groups, I appear to be more of an extrovert.

Here’s something else you may find surprising: Research with the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) shows that introverts actually outnumber extroverts, 50.8% to 49.3%. And, more men (54.1%) than women (47.5%) are introverted. What that means is there are a lot of introverts who have learned how to adapt to an extroverted world.

When it comes to introverts conducting a job search, here are a few survival tips:

  1. First, focus on your strengths. Introverts are great researchers. They more apt to find out information about a company before applying for a job or going to an interview. Take advantage of your researching skills to tailor your resume or cover letter.
  2. Network both online and offline. Social networking sites like LinkedIn are ideal for introverts who want to spend time thinking about how to respond to questions. But, of course, you can’t live online all the time and at some point you will also have to see people “live.”
  3. Introverts are also great listeners. The advantage is that when you network and meet people, you don’t have to dominate conversations. Just ask questions and listen. Really listen. People will be happy to share information with you.
  4. Prepare for interviews ahead of time. Practice by answering those interview questions, over and over and over, until you are comfortable answering a variety of questions. Initially, you can write out your answers or just think about how you would answer. Then …
  5. Buy or borrow a Flip Video and record your answers to those practice interview questions. With a Flip you can hold the camera at arms-length and record yourself for a couple of minutes. Then play back your “interview” to watch/listen to what you are doing well and where you need to improve.
  6. Once you’ve gained the confidence, ask a friend to interview you to see how you can handle other questions. And, once again, be sure to record those mock interviews on a Flip Video or camcorder.

While I could continue to list even more tips for introverts I’d rather direct you to a new job search book written by a fellow introvert, Wendy Gelberg. Wendy’s book is called The Successful Introvert. Find out more about it at www.GentleJobSearch.com

Sylva Leduc, MEd, MPEC
Leadership Strategist & Executive Coach
Sage Leadership Strategies

Author, “Roadmap to Success”
Get a free copy of “Roadmap to Success” with indepth interviews of Stephen Covey, Ken Blanchard, myself and others in coaching/consulting. Visit Sage Leaders and click on the book cover. There’s a nominal cost to cover S&H.

P.S. Yes, even extroverts can learn from these tips. Especially using a Flip Video to practice their interview questions.

What's TRUST got to do with it?

February 17, 2009 by  
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I recently had the pleasure of listening to a local Phoenix author, Victoria Crawford, talk about her new book, titled “The Art & Practice of Trust.”

Victoria was a presenter at the Phoenix chapter of the ICF — the Greater Phoenix Alliance of Coaches. Through her presentation and guided discussion, we explored why TRUST is one of the foundations of coaching. To me, the subtitle of her book, “Finding Your Way Through Uncertainty, Change & Transition” provided a central key.

When people venture into unknown territories, they are often filled with trepidation. Fear subsides when they realize they’re not the first ones to go into the unknown. And, confidence builds when they discover there is a pathway to follow. The pathway Victoria described is elegant in its simplicity.

We may venture into the unknown with a coach, a friend, a mentor, or only have our self to rely upon. In any case, what we tell ourselves, and the actions we take, determines how we handle change and uncertainty.

Think about the last time you faced a new challenge. Initially, your heartbeat may have quickened while your breathing became more rapid and shallow. So, even though blood was pumping through your veins, you were starving your brain (constrictive). Not a great combination for taking effective action.

As Victoria shared from her years as a yoga instructor, when facing new situations it’s vital to take some deep breaths, the kind in which you can feel your diaphragm go in and out (expansive). Only then can you begin to explore options. It’s the willingness to explore options and increase your awareness that leads you to trust your decisions and take committed actions.

As I was leaving the ICF meeting (which was held at Jobing.com), I saw some walls covered with handwritten comments. Someone told me they are left by former employees, as well as, by people who visit Jobing.com. What struck me was they seemed to be like signposts or markers. Just like those telltale markers we see on hiking paths: the ribbons tied to trees which indicate others have gone before us. Instead of hurrying out the door, I paused, took a deep, full breath, read a few of those messages and then smiled.

In times when the media seems to offer nothing but bad news and dire warnings, it was good to remember others are on this path with us and that trust (in oneself) is the key to success.

Cheers,
Syl